I remember the first time I put a bell on Slavewife's collar. She got upset and said it wasn't pretty or sexy, it just made her feel like a doll I was playing with. To her credit, she figured out within seconds that that was the point.
This was my second ever experience with the cane & I loved it. I much prefer the sting from a cane, whip & flogger over a paddle. The paddle does however make me scream out louder which he likes