As a soft Queen, he's passionately drawn to the intimacy and connection that evolved leadership can provide. If you are operating in a way that implies that he needs to meet you in some "unattainable delusional space" then you may want to rethink your
A Queen doesn't bitch and moan. A Queen doesn't nag. A Queen doesn't ask. A Queen brings peace to the home, to the relationship and to her man. That peace clears the mind and allows him to naturally move to serve of his Queen.
I belong in the hands of a grown matured man who communicates, listens and keeps all that I am soft, safe and free. He also needs to be ready for anything I can throw his way.