Viewfinder theory: Asami was probably in a toxic relationship before meeting Feilong, which is why he is lovingly distant and cruel in the first chapters.
Years of reading BL has taught me that when the characters look like this, the uke will surely be timid, pushover, and act like a damsel in distress. But that's not the case with this BL. The uke actually stands on his own (the bar is low, yes). Do you